A few weeks ago, RealAge.com listed their top ten cities for happiest marriages (click here). We were pleased to see our town, Grand Rapids, on the list. But the selection of cities was interesting to us and it made us wonder, “Are there really places that are better to be married than others?”
There’s probably something to be said for being in a city that both husband and wife love… a city that offers amenities that are appreciated by each. And, beyond that, there is a wonderful blessing in living in a city with an affordable cost of living, mitigating the financial stresses that sometimes exist in larger cities. Or, one might suggest that some cities are culturally more inclined towards promoting marriage (GR, with our wealth of churches and parachurch ministries, might fall into this category).
We got the chance to talk about some of this with our friends at Fox 17 this morning (click here), but we didn’t get a chance to highlight a deeper concept – that the city isn’t nearly as important as the community. What we mean is, a city is a geographic location, but your community are those with whom you live out your life. Couples often consciously choose the cities in which they’ll live, but sometimes don’t fully consider shaping their personal community.
We choose our friends. We choose our churches. We choose those from whom we seek mentoring and advice. We choose our online social communities. These choices have an enormous effect on our marriages because our communities behave as our support networks. And while it’s important for couples to consider where to live , it’s more important to consider with whom we live out our lives.