Since a lot of Jill and my lives are spent thinking about marriage, you might think that we watch a lot of romantic movies. Wrong. We tend to prefer romantic comedies, probably because they’re much more similar to our life together.
Think about it, how many times in your marriage have you had that perfect romantic experience? Has your spouse held a boombox over his/her head playing Peter Gabriel a la Say Anything (actually, we do love that movie)? Have the curtains billowed in the breeze as you make love like in Top Gun? Has your spouse recently forced a cabbie to blow through stop lights in a mad dash to get to the airport so he/she could yell “I love you” to you, only to arrive a moment too late? Or, try this one on for size… ever had your spouse belch like Will Farrell in Elf during a romantic dinner? Yeah, I thought so.
Years ago the comedian Richard Lewis used to say, “If I wrote a sex book, it would be called, ‘Ow, you’re on my hair!’” And he was right. Most romantic evenings are closer to romantic comedies. But who says that romance in marriage needs to consist of deep, passionate glances, bear rugs in front of fire places, dancing on a beach, or other scenes that mimic some Hollywood writer’s conception of romance? Maybe there’s something even more special about a date night that is reflective the lighthearted silliness of two people who enjoy living life together. And let’s face it ladies, if you expect the latter rather than the former, you’ll be far less likely to be let down!
Ha! So true! There is always some funny mishap on our romantic evening. I’ve come to expect it and we just laugh and enjoy the moment.
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I agree. Romance is nice, but you need to have a tickle fight every now and then.
This is a great and very true post.
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*Burp!* If you can’t laugh with a person, quite a lot, and frequently at fairly inappropriate times, you prolly shouldn’t marry them. Or anyone else. If you’re not able to laugh when things go “wrong” (and I put that in quotes because as I get older and have more history with the hubby, I enjoy the “wrong” so much it’s begun to feel right), you aren’t ready to be married (or to have kids!) Laughter is such an amazing and important part of my marriage. I can’t imagine married life without a lot of it, every single day. Great post!
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Funny, something made me think on a similar line while driving today. Back in the days [years, decades] of courtship, anything could put a butterfly in my stomach…holding hands, the phone ringing, the smell of a dirty, sweaty shirt. :/ Now, after 13 years, I dare say it’s not even possible. Romance after marriage is simply not the same. I do still LOVE myself a good romance movie. The Notebook, even after 50 views, brings me to tears. But I try to go into them knowing that what my husband gives me far surpasses a canoe ride in the rain [because I’d probably get mad that he didn’t check the weather].